Asexuality can be a lifetime or temporary practice for many people

Asexuality can be a lifetime or temporary practice for many people. Yet there is very little common knowledge about it which leads to self-doubt, insecurity and misidentification. Asexual people are often misguided to see a psychoanalyst in order to “get cured”. This website provides an inclusive and queer notion of asexuality and makes possible to widen our spectrum regarding (a)sexual orientation and practice. People without sexual activity are not saints nor ill. They do not refuse sexual activity to look “hard to get” or “pure”. They do not have medical or emotional problems. They have different ways of experiencing intimacy, eroticism, playfulness, tenderness, passion and euphoria. If you or any of your loved ones are asexual, do not tell them that they’d better seek help or they might get old, spiteful and lonely and will die alone! Do not encourage them to start dating randomly or against their will so that “they get used to it”. Let them take their time and enjoy life the way they know best. Marriage and relationships are only one way of living and shaping families and closeness. There are many more options to contribute to regeneration and passing the heritage on. Heteronormativity not only puts pressure on everyone to be(come) a certain way, but makes many people feel an urge to behave and think narrow and limited. Not everyone involved in a heterosexual relationship is happy nor everyone unmarried is incapable of love and commitment. When you approach to a person, consider that they might have a different preferred sexual distance than yours. If they get guarded or nervous by your sexual hints (rhetorical or touch) it does not mean they are rejecting You as a person, they might just be uncomfortable with the distance and expectations that they feel they are supposed to satisfy in this situation. Relocate yourself and assure them that you acknowledge their sexual distance. You might end up experiencing exciting moments and bonds.
Please share your experience with others (and here, if you wish) and let them know that you support freedom of sexuality and asexuality.

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