Newsflash: Facebook encourages self

Newsflash: Facebook encourages self-centeredness, and is therefore as a social platform, a piece of flaming shit. My friend committed himself to an act of extreme altruism and saved someone’s life, a status update which received precisely 13 likes from my network. On the other hand, news that relates to yourself, tied to an accomplishment, brings on a huge volume of likes. Anyone uncomfortable with that? #dailydose #irony #disgust

14 thoughts on “Newsflash: Facebook encourages self

  1. To everybody who’s commented on this post so far – David Ahmed Coulibaly, Garrard Conley, Charles Bivona, Michael Seymour Blake, Ashley Phillips Taylor and Paul Crenshaw: I should clarify that envy is a problem people have when they’re not being smart about controlling their social comparisons, and especially when they’re not capable of expressing and sharing happiness with other peoples’ accomplishments (fuck them if they can’t do the latter). My problem isn’t that people are accomplishing amazing things! It’s that Facebook is set up in such a way that altruism isn’t as socially rewarded as self-accomplishment. WTF is up with that? I’m so hurt and confused by that.

    1. People tend to skim shit. People tend to “like” accomplishments/art shit if they perceive the poster has some kind of power/authority/clout they can be a part of somehow. I literally have no idea what I’m talking about right now…

  2. Lol Michael yes. I want us all to actually care about each other. Is that too much to ask? Like, can we actually share someone else’s joy when they accomplish something wonderful in their personal and professional lives – and then, at the same time, can we also socially reward people for doing amazingly altruistic things that aren’t accomplishments per se, but are indicative of giving back and nurturing our broader human community? I realize I sound super idealistic right now but I get easily bruised when I see that FB isn’t encouraging people to be the best they can be. The best versions of themselves, both for themselves and for others. <3

  3. And I should amend my statement, based on what you’ve said, Michael. It doesn’t even have to be an accomplishment. It can just be fluff that attracts attention. I’m all for fun, but then I just wonder what’s going on when my friend saves someone’s life and gets 13 likes. He doesn’t care, of course. I’m the one who’s sitting here wondering and analyzing the shit out of this.

  4. I used to drive myself nuts about that stuff, but I stopped. I’m bitter enough as it is. I do relapse once in a while, though.

  5. I feel you, Michael. I also question my behaviors on here. Am I being the best friend/colleague I can be, am I doing enough to promote others’ work with love and joy, and am I promoting my own stuff too much when there’s a lot going on in the world right now? I question whether I’ve achieved an appropriate balance in my approach to social media. It’s very confusing.

  6. It could very well be, Michele! Although, I have to say, despite the fluctuating Facebook algorithms, this phenomenon has remained a troubling constant.

  7. Me too! I’m feeling like it’s turned into an unstable love/hate relationship for me, Michele. My most recent coping mechanism has been to create my curated list of close friends so I get to see their world first in my feed. Others figured out this simple trick a lot sooner than I did.

  8. I’m so self-centered that I didn’t notice it. My last half-hearted attempt at creating a utopian community was when I lived in a clothing optional apartment complex. I did meet a small group of people who are amazing and i am still in contact with. This kind of thing will never bring close relationships because it is disembodied. We are people of the flesh.

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